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Anything is possible at GayCupid, so why not open yourself up to all the possibilities we have to offer. Find a gay relationship to suit your needs. Send a message or interest to start communicating with members. It's your time to shine. Please go back and read. I was speaking on behalf of Laura Spencer. From many of the postings it is apparent that many people agree with my comment.
If your group of friends is literally trying to sacrifice you, you might actually be in a cult. Just last week I was at the gym, in the sauna, with two extremely attractive, hard-body built, straight boys who are brothers. Well anyway, we were having a nice conversation when a Gay male acquaintance entered the sauna and nearly lost his mind and control of his eyeballs.
He just kept staring and licking his lips until he had to leave the sauna because his dcik was getting hard! I pretty much exclusively prefer lesbians for friendships over the other options. The comments with photos are very realistic, thought provoking and informative. And the comments in this comment section are excellent too.
I love Scrabble and Monopoly perhaps childish I guess. But if I ask to top them, they are like sure! So it all comes down to liking the right board games. What a simpleton. While some people who have replied are over the top, the supposed well-adjusted gay guys who have friendship figured out boil it down to 1. Sex is cheap, 2. Have no standards.
It is not normal to need to have sex first to establish a friendship. You can have no boundaries for the self. You are gay, pawn yourself out for a little social acceptance. Treat sex as special and be labeled a homophobe. You sound like the most tragic bitch alive. Find it hard to make gay friends?
Gay republicans, gay self hating fake masculine idiots and tools who think they have it all figured out… like that clown lauraspencer. Another greatly insightful post from the queen of wisdom! Maybe you ought to grasp two good looking gay guys can be friends. But then again you probably think it is impossible. Of course, you are complaining because no gay man would want to be friends with you. And you know what is worth? Gay men on here constantly degrading other gay men. Talk about a bunch of egotistical self righteous set of idiots nobody would ever want to be friends with!
BikerPup, how about starting a site that is strictly for fun, sports, hiking, guitar jams, poker nights, film festivals? Same idea as other kinds of sites, but the emphasis would be on creating solid friendships. I now go to a gym nearby, frequented by mainly working class and unemployed locals: They talk to you. Some of them want to meet up and do stuff. Sometimes that involves sex, but not necessarily. Most of the few gay friends I have are former lovers. I equate being gay with being bi-racial. When I moved here, the men were very friendly and would interact with you and actually have a conversation with you!
I thought I left that scene years ago when I lived in Hollywood. Never had problems making friends, the trick is to be able to see and choose the right people, it is a matter of taking a chance opening one self to others and people will respond in kind. It is also a capacity to draw lines, bottom line balance. Ideally, since we all have our short comings, education, emotional stability and intelligence.
I never cared if my friends were gay or straight, male or female……. Straight people are allowed, in the unlikely event they want to show up. Usually superhero-type flicks.
Robby Robinson: That all depends on where you find your friends. Any smart gay man has a certain level of homophobia, its the only way to avoid the toxic gay subculture of permissive sex, drug use and permanent victimhood politics. Definitely difficult to make gay friends unless you are willing to play along with the weird sexual politics and mind games prevalent in fruit loops. No wonder there are huge epidemics of syphilis, gonorrhea and various other sex diseases in the homosexual population.
Thanks for sharing. LOL at that username! What do you heavy lift? A krispy kreme donut into your mouth? People like you are so fake on so many levels. And they way you attack other gay people while piggy backing on progress that is being made, shows how much of a fucking bigoted asshole you really are. Go back into the closet because you do more damage than even anti-gay people do. He calls gay people fruitloops because his dad used the same language. Sex is a side issue. If it simplifies things, take sex out of the equation. Yes, you can be friends with someone you never had sex with.
Nor do we talk about sex, much. The friendships are based on other interests. There are plenty of other things to talk about and to do. Drugs are easy to avoid. But drugs are also easy to avoid in gay life, unless you are totally spineless, and vulnerable to any peer pressure. Which may be your situation. Anyway, it seems like you guys should be able to find gay friends. You have something in common already! Once again you are wrong about me. Just today I had brunch with 3 friends and then dinner with two others.
I do not define my friendships on having to find my friends physically attractive. Often gay men say they want friends, but they actually want to be physically attracted to those friends. If you put a basic friendship before finding a friend that you are also physically attracted to then making friends can be pretty easy. More holier than thou nonsense. How would you know? It seems to me that if significant numbers of Gay men are finding it difficult or impossible to form meaningful friendships with other Gay men there are a couple of likely explanations:.
There is something paychologically wrong with significant numbers of Gay that prevents them from making friends with other Gay men. There is something particularly toxic and dysfunctional about Gay culture that makes it problematic for even well-adjusted, psycologically healthy Gay men to make friends with other Gay men. Based on my observations and experience I think the correct explanation is number 2. Many Gay men enter this lifestyle with high hopes, but get ground down and spit out by a predatory culture that is all teeth and no heart. I do not think I am better than anyone else and I have never said so.
If you think I come off that way then that is more your issue than mine.
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As for my postings you can easily see that my comments tend to be on weekends and later evening most of the time. Sometime even on my lunch hour. Dude, we keep telling you how to do it, and you keep ignoring our advice. Well, apparently in your own mind it exists. See a therapist. Using your OWN reasoning — you say there are a lot of gay men out there who are very similar to you. This comment thread is proof enough of that. So obviously, since they are out there, you could still meet them and make friends with them.
Like, say, a very non-gay coffee shop, or very non-gay hiking trail, or very non-gay bowling alley. Some place where gay culture dare not bare its toxic fangs. How does gay culture literally, physically prevent you from meeting them? That makes absolutely no sense. Of course you are grandstanding and saying you are better than other gay men. You are no better than the right wing bigot. Once again, it comes down to your reading comprehension as it has in the past with other comments of mine and other posters. My reading comprehension is perfectly fine and I can see through your deception.
You are one of the biggest frauds on this website and the way you speak of yourself is indicative of how you view other gay men. You need to get over yourself. This is almost like a weird religion with you. In fact, they are probably happier being themselves, with whatever challenges or disappointments they face, as opposed to you.
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I have lots of friends and professional colleagues. I include family among my network of friends. And I interact with each of them in many different ways — socially, professionally, and personally. But I would call on very few of these friends during those moments of deep distress or utter joy.
Friends of this kind are quite rare and they are to be cherished. One last observation: If you, personally, are more comfortable making friends with women, fine. And hardly an unusual situation. Your medal is in the mail. Too declasse for you, I suppose. Go to the opera if you prefer. We just got on with however the resulting non-sexual friendship developed. Making friends is not rocket science. I have to make a certain effort to get involved in activities that interest me, where gay men tend to be. And yes, it was much easier in my 20s than it is now in my 50s after a LOT of my close friends have already died!
What are they trying to prove? You are spot on. I was exactly like those young guys when i was young until i realise that it was me who had a problem. I was jealous of other gay guys because they are confident, atttractive and feeling good about themselves. If it helps anyone, I had a bad background for all this. I was bullied a lot in school, probably borderline autistic, though I never heard that term back then. They had some actual grown-up activities and interests — not just drinking or drugs but not puritans, most of them.
Very lucky for me. So I learned to look for this quality, later on. Back in , there were few ways to meet, and gay culture was still rather monolithic. It really was! Again it is your issue and not mine. I have now said numerous times that I am not better than anyone…gay or straight. You are the one who continues to suggest that I am. Unresolved pain must be healed. Whether nightmares, repeating themes, or strife, the capacity for us to heal is immense. The subconscious invites what we need, good or bad.
Unnamed pain takes part in decisions. Attraction, rooted in the depths of our psyche, is really admiration of a trait or quality of another. The comments on these threads would give the Boys in the Band a run for the money. We have been through a tough time. People, Pastors, politicians, and Popes have all been scrutinizing us. Damn, if there ever was a subset in society that bears pain, it is this one. If you recognize it in another, at least be tender and use power well. Make friends, walk dogs, enjoy life.
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Name a monster and recognize patterns. Fibonacci would agree. Keep on peddling that nonsense. Just like your political views… wishy washy and dishonest. Again with the reading comprehension. I have strongly and honestly stated my political views numerous times. I never did either one. If you have proof I would love to see it. And again… there you go… peddling more garbage and dishonesty. That says it all really. And stop trying to backtrack and support Sanders you putz. You say you are economic conservative, yet you support Sanders?
My voting record speaks for itself. It makes me smile. Your voting record is total shit. Never have I met someone so ignorant in my life! Please look up comments from the person you call an ignoramus and see how many times he has resorted to using profanity. For someone who acts so knowledgeable in politics how in the world did you never learn to speak properly and respectfully?
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You continue to call me a liar even though I have stated my voting record numerous times. Believe what you want. Scrabble is my favorite. There is on-line Scrabble I think, which would enable folks far away from one another to play. I went to Meetup. And they were all from my hometown too.
Many LGBT groups also. Half the people you posted stuff about have friends just not gay friends. Hey at least you all have friends I have none. Any suggestions? I agree! I find it very hard to meet gay guys for friendship! There should be an app created for gay guys looking for friends. I met a guy, from the bar-scene, many years ago who had all the good qualities I liked but he lived in a different city about an hours drive away. Because I can easily fall head-over-heels for the right guy, I was afraid to get too close to him because of that distance issue.
Neither of us were prepared to move from our hometowns. So, we are just friends now with email contact and that turned out to be OK. Search for: Get Queerty Daily Subscribe to Queerty for a daily dose of gayfriendships whisperapp stories and more. Sebashtzen Rowan-Ferrari Aint this the truth. Sam Molina I must be rare because I have had the opposite experience! J Alexander Steel If I could give some advice on that, try going to your local pride centre or look for community type events.
Carlos Segura Yes to this to infinity. David Chachki Thank God i thought i was the only one. Robby Robinson Want gay friends…. Cesar Fortun Specially on Church St. Bauhaus The lines got blurry for me once. Xander Vanhooser Yeah especially when you meet they try and have sex with you. Platonic, step it up, guys. David Zakrzewski Trust issues. As much as I hate to admit it, I trust my straight friends more. Derek Perron Yup. Too gay to be straight Too straight to be gay. Tough to find mutual interests and sensibilities. Where do you want to meet? Boxton Beats Definitely has been harder to make them.
Shawn Michael Gays are too much to handle for me quite a bit.
Evji AtticusBennett: AtticusBennett thing is — club culture is superficial, gay OR straight. Rick Holtz All of my close male friends have been straight. Laurentum Mullan Bingo yeah I prefer people who are down to earth and With a low level of being judgmental of others looks and coolness which eliminates about 95 percent of gay people. Its a matter of knowing who you like having around you The idea that there could be some sexual tension, is unheard of with me.
Maybe I am just wired differently. But to me, a friend is a friend is a friend is a friend. Dave Edwards Interesting views, I can echo many of them. Denis J Carroll Plutonic?! AtticusBennett tusgold: Leonidas Aubin true. Chris Pawley I am always happy to make friends! Matthew Paul Dumas-Bowden Yes its very hard.
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Chord Savage I find it hard make any gay friend local. Dameon Gene Rogers It is tough, you should spend time with people you like. I like men! Jon Mackey I find it hard just too make friends in general. Mike Butterworth Most gays are superficial and dont. Know how to care for others beside himself.